New Car, Old Husband
This year I have two babies: a new car and an old husband.
Santa gifted me with a new car for Christmas. It’s a cute little SUV 4 door hatchback 2011 Nissan Juke, silver on the outside, gray on the inside. It has that new car smell, not a scratch on it, no bumps or bruises. It sits in the driveway waiting for me to turn it on. Then it takes me anywhere I want to go. It’s dependable, reliable and I love it. I find myself calling it "Jukie Baby".
The other baby in my life is my husband. He’s not new. In fact, he has been alive for 90 years. He has a George smell, many scratches, some bruises, and his strength is waning. He lingers in bed, with that devilish grin, waiting for me to turn him on. He is dependable and reliable. He is the love of my life.
George was 70 when he took a new bride and began a new marriage (his third). Now 20 years later, his is an old man riding in his bride’s new car. But the woman by his side has not aged at all in his eyes. He sees her as beautiful as the day he married her. That’s love for you!
As cars age, they wear out and have to be replaced. I was very attached to my first car. It was a hot looking red Pontiac with white interior. I cried when I had to let her go and I judged myself for it. I felt it was wrong to get so attached to a piece of metal. I vowed never to get that attached to a car again. So far I have succeeded.
As people age, they too wear out. Sometimes they are able to replace body parts and extend their life a few more years. But no one escapes a transition into another form be it dust to dust or on to another life in another body. How do we prepare ourselves for that?
Whether it is your new car or the love of your life, they are all temporary. They come into your life for awhile and then they exit – sometimes slowly, sometimes suddenly. The judgment is in how resilient are we to adjust to change. If we practice resilience and letting things pass through, then whether it is an inanimate object or a human being, our emotions will be appropriate to the loss and not in the extreme.
You can love deeply and not be attached. Give that which comes to you the freedom to come and go. Appreciate it 100% while in your life, then when it’s time to let go, appreciate its having been there. Remember all things are temporary. We can reduce our stress levels by developing the ability or mindset to allow things/people to flow through our life and not hold on with attachment energy.
Things flow in, things flow out. Appreciate what flows in; appreciate what was when it flows out. We have named this process evolution of the soul.
Until you return, fill your days with GIGGLES, JOY, and APPRECIATION!
SylviaSilk, D.D. Director of the Institute For Balanced Living, Los Angeles,CA, USA
DoctorofDivinity, SpiritualCoach, ReconnectiveHealingPractitioner, Writer
Santa gifted me with a new car for Christmas. It’s a cute little SUV 4 door hatchback 2011 Nissan Juke, silver on the outside, gray on the inside. It has that new car smell, not a scratch on it, no bumps or bruises. It sits in the driveway waiting for me to turn it on. Then it takes me anywhere I want to go. It’s dependable, reliable and I love it. I find myself calling it "Jukie Baby".
The other baby in my life is my husband. He’s not new. In fact, he has been alive for 90 years. He has a George smell, many scratches, some bruises, and his strength is waning. He lingers in bed, with that devilish grin, waiting for me to turn him on. He is dependable and reliable. He is the love of my life.
George was 70 when he took a new bride and began a new marriage (his third). Now 20 years later, his is an old man riding in his bride’s new car. But the woman by his side has not aged at all in his eyes. He sees her as beautiful as the day he married her. That’s love for you!
As cars age, they wear out and have to be replaced. I was very attached to my first car. It was a hot looking red Pontiac with white interior. I cried when I had to let her go and I judged myself for it. I felt it was wrong to get so attached to a piece of metal. I vowed never to get that attached to a car again. So far I have succeeded.
As people age, they too wear out. Sometimes they are able to replace body parts and extend their life a few more years. But no one escapes a transition into another form be it dust to dust or on to another life in another body. How do we prepare ourselves for that?
Whether it is your new car or the love of your life, they are all temporary. They come into your life for awhile and then they exit – sometimes slowly, sometimes suddenly. The judgment is in how resilient are we to adjust to change. If we practice resilience and letting things pass through, then whether it is an inanimate object or a human being, our emotions will be appropriate to the loss and not in the extreme.
You can love deeply and not be attached. Give that which comes to you the freedom to come and go. Appreciate it 100% while in your life, then when it’s time to let go, appreciate its having been there. Remember all things are temporary. We can reduce our stress levels by developing the ability or mindset to allow things/people to flow through our life and not hold on with attachment energy.
Things flow in, things flow out. Appreciate what flows in; appreciate what was when it flows out. We have named this process evolution of the soul.
Until you return, fill your days with GIGGLES, JOY, and APPRECIATION!
SylviaSilk, D.D. Director of the Institute For Balanced Living, Los Angeles,CA, USA
DoctorofDivinity, SpiritualCoach, ReconnectiveHealingPractitioner, Writer
What a beautiful perspective, Sylvia. I agree, it's important to stay grounded in one's true essence in order to deal well with the transitory nature of worldly existence. Everything comes and goes. Thanks so much.
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Interestingly, if you're resilient and allows things to pass through, the loves of your life won't be temporary. How many relationships are ruined by overreactions to insignificant things? By being patient and forgiving of minor indiscretions, you and your partner will easily weather the inevitable conflicts that all relationships bring.
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